Today we’re joined by Shalyse. Shalyse is a phenomenal author who is currently working on a novel that features a main character who is an asexual POC and also polyamorous. That novel will be published under the name Zephyrrine. Aside from writing, Shalyse is also the founder of DFW Asexual Meetup and has a couple other blogs. Aside from fiction, Shalyse also writes poetry and nonfiction. She’s quite a dedicated writer, as you’ll soon read. My thanks to her for taking the time to participate in this interview.
Please, tell us about your art.
The primary piece I want to discuss is a book I am writing that features an asexual polyamorous character in a queer polycule. The primary character is a cis-woman of color who is asexual and some of the secondary main characters are multiple men of varying sexualities. This book will also feature aspects of the kink community as well to show the various ways asexual and kink relationships can play out. It is also based in a fictional timeline and with the characters begin from a fictitious civilization that integrates into our modern world. This is a fantasy style novel.
My secondary piece is my poly blog, lettalkaboutpoly.wordpress.com, that seeks to explore polyamory and the intersection that individuals bring to the relationship style. Similar to the way the book will, but with real life experiences.
My other blog is my xoxshalyse.wordpress.com, which host some of my poetry and think pieces.
What inspires you?
The need of visibility and education for alternative lifestyles. I know what it’s like to feel so completely broken because I didn’t know that it was OK to go against the societal norms, especially when my norms seem to contradict watch other.
What got you interested in your field? Have you always wanted to be an artist?
I have always written stories and poetry, as well as I used to paint and draw. Creativity and art were my main outlets for dealing with being suicidal and having trouble understanding the illogical world around me. I recently however decided to use my love of writing to promote alternative lifestyles to give us the visibility we need.
Do you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in your work that you’d be willing to reveal?
There is a running theme of finding and addressing the dark parts of yourself and embracing it to become whole person that loves and respects yourself.
What advice would you give young aspiring artists?
Just do it. Even if you think it will suck, because it will probably turn out better than you thought.
Where on the spectrum do you identify?
I identify as a sex repulsed asexual. I am also aromantic and polyamorous, though I engage in relationships as bi/pan – romantic.
Have you encountered any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field? If so, how do you handle it?
What’s the most common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?
That we are celibate and abusive to our partners for disliking or refusing to force ourselves to participate in sexual encounters.
What advice would you give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their orientation?
It’s OK to be confused. Asexuality means you don’t experience sexual attraction. There are a hundred plus ways we can present. There is no rush to figure it all out even in a relationship. Just be honest with yourself and your partners.
Finally, where can people find out more about your work?
You can find me on Twitter at xoxshalyse.
Thank you, Shalyse, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.