Today we’re joined by R.M.K.. R.M.K. is a phenomenal poet who has just released their first poetry collection recently. It delves into topics like mental illness and recovery. They’re currently working on another collection about enbies, aces, and aros, which will be out this October. R.M.K. writes modern poetry and is extraordinarily talented. It’s clear they’re dedicated to their craft, as you’ll soon read. My thanks to them for taking the time to participate in this interview.
Please, tell us about your art.
I write what I refer to as “modern poetry.” It is in the same style as Rupi Kaur’s. It isn’t like “classical poetry” which I see as sometimes really dense and hard to comprehend. My poetry focuses less on imagery and more on just getting your thoughts down on paper. Sometimes on Tumblr you see it looking like “is this poetry if I just write prose and put a bunch of spaces?” Yes!
My poetry ranges from mental illness, recovery, letters, nonbinary, asexual, and aromantic themes. I talk about a lot of different stuff in my work. My first collection focuses on mental illness and recovery, while my upcoming collection will focus on enbies, asexuals, and aromantics.
The goal of my poetry collections is to inspire people to share their own stories.
What inspires you?
Rupi Kaur inspired my first book. She is the author of Milk And Honey and The Sun and Her Flowers. I am also inspired by Courtney Peppernell, who writes lesbian poetry, and r.h. Sin, who writes about various subjects.
What got you interested in your field? Have you always wanted to be an artist?
I got interested in poetry only about two years ago. Before then I was an aspiring novelist, and still am, but poetry is a lot easier for me to write. I’m not really sure what got me interested in poetry. It might’ve been when I found Rupi’s first book. Since then I’ve bought around fifteen different poetry books and have consumed them with fervor.
Do you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in your work that you’d be willing to reveal?
In my poetry I never use capitalization and show speaking or quotes as italics. It’s part of my style but is in no way unique. Anyone out there could use this style if they so wanted.
What advice would you give young aspiring artists?
Write boldly and unapologetically and also, don’t turn your nose up at self-publishing. This is the route I am going by now. If you want to write about a nonbinary character who uses they/them pronouns, do it! Write about whatever subject you want in whatever format you feel suits it best and don’t pull any punches! Tell the story you want to tell and don’t compromise on a thing!
If anyone is looking for self-publishing, look no further than CreateSpace, an Amazon company, which will print-per-order your books and also stock in stores. You can do everything you need to with the site, even make a cover.
Where on the spectrum do you identify?
I identify as asexual and also aromantic and nonbinary. I use they/them pronouns.
Have you encountered any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field? If so, how do you handle it?
When I submitted to publishers I used my pronouns and chosen name on all my correspondences and never heard anything back. I don’t know if this is just a coincidence or if it was directly related, but I have since gone forward with self-publishing.
What’s the most common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?
That it’s the same as celibacy, which it definitely isn’t. People are celibate for religious reasons, usually. We are asexual because we are born that way, or because of trauma. Both are valid.
What advice would you give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their orientation?
If you find the label no longer fits, then you can drop it! There’s no shame in that! Before this I thought I was just a skittish pansexual. Before that I was totally convinced I was homosexual. It’s okay to explore.
Also, you don’t really owe anyone an explanation. If you’re asexual, you’re asexual. That’s it. They should be responsible for educating themselves if they can’t understand you.
Finally, where can people find out more about your work?
The first book, entitled Days, will be available by the time you read this. The second collection, entitled Queer, (I’m on the side of reclaiming this slur, I’m sorry if you are not and I have offended you), will be coming out October 11th to coincide with National Coming Out Day.
Thank you, R.M.K., for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.