A Few Odds and Ends

Hello all.

This is just a couple odds and ends, random bits of news.

Apology for Last Week

I know I didn’t post last week and I wanted to offer a sincere apology for that. The past few months . . . they’ve been incredibly rough. I wanted to give a brief explanation, because there’s a chance that I might need a day or week off every now and again in the future.

I have Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), have had it all my life. Because of this, I wasn’t allowed to learn another language in school. Neurotypical students were given the option to take another language in middle school, while students with diagnosed learning disabilities were put in study hall. From a young age, I was fascinated with language and not being allowed to learn a second language was not only humiliating, it was heartbreaking.

I tried to learn Greek when I was earning my degree and was absolutely terrible at it, but good heavens, was it fun! I sucked at it, but I was allowed to learn it and that’s all I wanted. Had I be given a few more years, I probably would have been halfway decent. Unfortunately, I was only able to take a year of it before I graduated.

Recently, I decided to learn ASL. I really want to learn another language, being fluent in at least two languages is a dream of mine. I signed up at my local community college, having forgotten some past experiences I had at the place (which should have left permanent red flags). I passed ASL I and II. In January, I started ASL III.

I really don’t want to go into detail about what happened, it’s still really painful to remember, but from January until April, I was regularly subjected to ableist abuse from the students in the class, including being shamed for having a learning disability. It got so terrible that I wound up having to medically withdraw from the course (as well as another one I was taking). I realized that I would have rather been dead than in that class and wound up having a panic attack that almost landed me in the hospital. All because I wanted to learn a language.

I wound up lodging a complaint with the college. I am currently in the process of trying to get a refund for the course, which looks likely to happen (based on the sheer amount of fuck ups that happened). I have been assured that this sort of situation will never happen again.

Since April, I’ve been recovering from the experience (and the subsequent anxiety that it triggered. Oh and all the brand new triggers, which is just so much fun [sarcasm]). Some days, I wake up and my entire body feels like an exposed nerve and everything hurts and it just reminds me of that damn class. I’m still trying to get back to a place of confidence, back to my badass self, but it’s difficult. Some days are better than others. Some days are still a struggle. Keeping up this site helps a lot (as it did when I was going through the worst of that experience). Seeing friends also helps. I had lunch with the phenomenal H-P Lehkonen in April (though I fear I was quite out of it at the time). I went to WisCon in Madison with my dear friend, Leigh, in May where I met a couple followers of this blog (it was lovely seeing you 🙂 ) and had dinner with a bunch of aces. In July, I went to Indy PopCon in Indianapolis, where I saw Hallopino, who I interviewed for this site a while back, met a whole bunch of aces, and got to hang out with my bestie (we went to see Wonder Woman! It was awesome!). I also got to see my bestie again a couple weeks later for her birthday.

Anyhow, I wanted to apologize because I feel like I’m letting the followers of this blog down. Some of you have written really lovely messages that I haven’t been able to respond to because of all the shit I’ve been dealing with relating to this f’ing class. I am so sorry. Please know that your kind words were very appreciated when I was in a really bad place (I am so grateful to all of you). And then I just completely burned out last week and couldn’t upload the four interviews I had waiting in my inbox. I am very sorry. You guys deserve better. I am really, really trying. I really am. I promise that if I ever burn out again, I’ll post a short post to let you know that’s the case.

Thanks for your patience.

Happy Exciting News! 😀

While all the shit with that class was happening, I was still hard at work on the reboot of my series. Unfortunately, the severe anxiety and panic attacks meant I had to push back the release date. It was supposed to happen in August, but I’m lucky enough to have great friends who tell me to take care of myself first (I probably would have had a complete breakdown had I tried to release the series in August).

BUT! That means I get to re-release my series on my favorite day of the year: Halloween! YAY!

My wonderful friend and fellow ace author, Lyssa Chiavari, has been helping me set up everything in anticipation of the book’s release. You guys, the first two pages are live!

Sere from the Green
Through Storm and Night

I know some of you have already read the previous versions and I hope you’ll give the series another chance, now that it has been professionally edited (and beta read by another dear friend, Taia Hartman). These are the books I wanted to write, told in my voice. I poured everything into these books and I’m really happy with the result. I’m so grateful to Snowy Wings Publishing for giving me this wonderful opportunity. It feels like a dream.

I have to warn you that September and October are going to be ridiculously as I continue to prepare for this re-release. So there might be a couple days I go M.I.A. It’s super important to me that I get this right. Thank you in advance for your understanding 🙂

I’ll probably post a reminder closer to the release date, which I hope followers won’t mind.

Upcoming Birthday

As some followers of this site are aware, my birthday is September 27th. As usual, I’m requesting you find some way to support asexual identifying artists (either by supporting their work or by offering them some kind words).

However, I have a teeny request: my fundraiser for the trip to Baltimore is still going on. I really need to raise the funds for this trip (still need a little less than $200 to reach my goal). Anything you could spare would be greatly appreciated: https://www.youcaring.com/laurenjankowski-878223

I’m terrible at fundraisers (and it has been hard to focus on this with all the other stuff going on). I cannot reiterate that enough: I am so bad at promoting myself. But I really want to do this. I know that I could really contribute to this panel and I want this experience.


Anyhow, that’s about it.

OH! Please keep those interview requests coming. I only have four scheduled for next week.

Thanks, everyone! 🙂 ❤

New Site Rule

Hi everybody!

I’m just going to get right into it: I need to make a new site rule. It hasn’t often popped up, but with the rise of own voices in the ace community, I’ve been increasingly uncomfortable with the erasure of ace POC and their voices. And I’m seeing a lot of white aces refusing to check their privilege and completely ignoring intersectionality (especially when it comes to ace activism). That has got to stop: acephobia is not the ultimate oppression and it’s experienced differently by different aces, depending on a number of factors. By white aces refusing to check their privilege, they are causing so much harm to ace POC.

And look, I know I’m just a little site about art, but I’m also an intersectional feminist. I can’t do much to change the dialogue in activist circles, but I can try to make this site as equal as it can be. That’s why I have an open door policy for interviews (mostly): if you create, than you’re an artist and I want to interview you.

Anyhow, the new site rule: Asexual Artists will not recommend or signal boost any list of “own voices” that does not include ace POC. Any list of “great ace and aro representation” that does not include ace authors/creators of color, will be edited out of interviews and not posted on this site. And it can’t be one fleeting mention of one POC author or creator among a sea of white authors or creators. They have to be at least in equal numbers and with equal coverage/mention.

I try to make this site as safe as it can be for everyone and I probably should have declared this rule much earlier. However, there it is and it will be enforced.

Thanks everyone!

Thank you so much

Hello all!

I just wanted to write a quick note to thank you all so, so very much for all the kind and encouraging words and messages of solidarity you’ve sent to me. They have really been incredibly comforting. And thank you so much for your patience as well. I’m overwhelmed with your generosity and overall wonderfulness. This blog has introduced me to some of the best people and I could not be more grateful to all of you.

Followers of this blog and interviewees: you are such wonderful amazing people. I love these blogs, I love the artists I interview, and I love the followers.

While I am concerned, and yes even scared, of what the future will look like, I am still so proud to be part of this community. I will always be proud to be an aromantic asexual woman.

Sending a massive virtual hug to all of you.

I will respond to the messages I received on Tumblr the next chance I get. I’m working at a convention this weekend (hence my being brief and probably repeating myself like an absolute goof), so I’ll upload next week’s interviews on Sunday night. New interviews all next week.

Thank you again 🙂 Just . . . really, just thank you ❤

Sorry for the Delay

Hello all.

I’m not going to sugarcoat this and I apologize for any rambling. I fear I’m still in a state of shock.

Last night, my country, the United States, voted fascists into power. To say I’m devastated is a massive understatement. It’s more than that however: as I’ve stated on my other social media accounts, this is likely the excuse my Dad’s side of the family (the queerphobic/acephobic side who have threatened me before) has been waiting for. Needless to say, I don’t hold out any illusions about surviving through Trump/Pence. Oh, I will fight like hell and I will protect those who are even more at risk. But I’m also a realist.

I’m going to keep this site running, obviously, and I have two interviews to upload and schedule. I wanted to have one posted today, but I fear that I desperately need to take a mental health day. I beg your forgiveness and understanding.

Thank you so much for your patience. Remember, the sun will always rise and some things will always be worth fighting for. I will fight for ace artists as long as there is breath in my body.

Hopefully the next interview will be up on Thursday (Monday at the latest).

Call for Interviewees

(Reposted from Tumblr)

Hello all!

Once again, I’m low on interviewees. Since I don’t have the time to constantly post calls every single time I’m running low, I’m hoping to use this post as a kind of a reminder:

ASEXUAL ARTISTS IS OPEN FOR INTERVIEWS YEAR-ROUND!

I’m always looking for artists who are on the spectrum to interview. Any and all kinds of artists are welcome.

This is including but not limited to:

WRITERS: all genres and forms are welcome (novelists, short stories, poetry, flash fiction, etc). It doesn’t matter if you’re unpublished, just starting out, a student, a hobbyist, or established. Traditionally published, self-published, small press, etc. You’re all welcome and you all have something to offer.

VISUAL ARTISTS: Self explanatory, any kind of visual art you can imagine (photography, painting, sketching, drawing, sculpture, installation, street art, etc.).

FANARTISTS: Another self-explanatory category. Cosplay, visual, fanfiction, etc. Whatever you do in your fandom (any and all fandoms welcome), you’re an artist.

FILMMAKERS: YouTubers, directors, cinematographers, anything that has to do with making films (short, features, documentaries, etc).

PERFORMANCE ARTS: actors, theater arts, singers, mimes, any sort of performers.

DANCERS: Any kind of dance style you can imagine is welcome here (ballet, tap, jazz, contemporary, burlesque, belly-dancing, ballroom, etc.)

MUSICIANS: playing instruments, composing, singing, anything involving music

CULINARY: maybe your medium of choice is food. If so, you’re welcome here.

CRAFTS: any sort of craft you can think of (sewing, knitting, crocheting, candle making, jewelry making, etc.)

All levels of artists are welcome: whether you’re a student or a professional, just starting out or already established. If you create, you have something to offer and therefore I want to interview you 🙂

If you’re still unsure whether or not your art qualifies (there’s a 97.9% chance it will), and your question isn’t answered in the F.A.Q., please contact me at laurenjankowski27@gmail.com

If you want to be interviewed, please email me at the same address (laurenjankowski27@gmail.com)

This site continues because I get requests for interviews. If the interviews run out, this site will remain as a resource 🙂 Updates will continue as long as there are aces out there willing to be interviewed.

Thank you, everybody.

Call for Interviews

Hello all!

Once again, I’m low on interviewees. Since I don’t have the time to constantly post calls every single time I’m running low, I’m hoping to use this post as a kind of a reminder:

ASEXUAL ARTISTS IS OPEN FOR INTERVIEWS YEAR-ROUND!

I’m always looking for artists who are on the spectrum to interview. Any and all kinds of artists are welcome.

This is including but not limited to:

WRITERS: all genres and forms are welcome (novelists, short stories, poetry, flash fiction, etc). It doesn’t matter if you’re unpublished, just starting out, a student, a hobbyist, or established. Traditionally published, self-published, small press, etc. You’re all welcome and you all have something to offer.

VISUAL ARTISTS: Self explanatory, any kind of visual art you can imagine (photography, painting, sketching, drawing, sculpture, installation, etc.).

FANARTISTS: Another self-explanatory category. Cosplay, visual, fanfiction, etc. Whatever you do in your fandom (any and all fandoms welcome), you’re an artist.

FILMMAKERS: YouTubers, directors, cinematographers, anything that has to do with making films (short, features, documentaries, etc).

PERFORMANCE ARTS: actors, theater arts, singers, mimes, any sort of performers.

DANCERS: Any kind of dance style you can imagine is welcome here (ballet, tap, jazz, contemporary, burlesque, belly-dancing, ballroom, etc.)

MUSICIANS: playing instruments, composing, singing, anything involving music

CULINARY: maybe your medium of choice is food. If so, you’re welcome here.

CRAFTS: any sort of craft you can think of (sewing, knitting, crocheting, candle making, jewelry making, etc.)

All levels of artists are welcome: whether you’re a student or a professional, just starting out or already established. If you create, you have something to offer and therefore I want to interview you 🙂

If you’re still unsure whether or not your art qualifies (there’s a 97.9% chance it will), and your question isn’t answered in the F.A.Q., please contact me at laurenjankowski27@gmail.com

If you want to be interviewed, please email me at the same address (laurenjankowski27@gmail.com)

This site continues because I get requests for interviews. If the interviews run out, this site will remain as a resource 🙂 Updates will continue as long as there are aces out there willing to be interviewed.

Thank you, everybody.

A Couple Quick Things

Hello all!

I’m rather busy at the moment, so this is going to be rather brief.


 

A Reminder

(This is mostly directed at Tumblr, since that’s where I’m seeing the most acephobia and general horribleness towards people on the asexual spectrum)

I am not going to comment on the amount of hatred aimed at aces on Tumblr, especially the recent influx of it. I deal with enough acephobes and take comfort in the fact that they’re on the wrong side of history.

However!

I did want to take a moment to remind everyone that there is a strict anti-bullying, anti-bigotry policy on this blog (which is stated in the F.A.Q.) section. Simply put: I do not tolerate any kind of bullying or hatred. Racism, sexism, misogyny, homophobia, classism, ableism, any -ism (and other kind of prejudice) isn’t welcome on this blog and will not be tolerated.

If I catch wind of anyone reblogging and/or supporting the people who are currently attacking and bullying aces (and there’s one blogger in particular who has been targeting both asexual and bisexual bloggers on Tumblr), you will be permanently blocked from Asexual Artists. If you are blocked, I will pull your interview and links so fast your head will spin. I don’t care your reasons, I don’t care if you’re friends with an acephobe, if you are participating in acephobia and erasure, you are not welcome on this site. Asexual Artists is a safe place for everyone on the ace spectrum. And I will not tolerate any abuse directed at them.


 

More Interviews Needed

As always, Asexual Artists is open for more interviews. Every single kind of artist is welcome. If you’re anywhere on the spectrum, I would love to interview you.

I need more interviews to fill out the month, so please, send me an email: laurenjankowski27@gmail.com

Thank you, everyone!

Where are the Asexual Voices C2E2 Presentation

As promised, here’s my presentation from C2E2 (all the thanks goes to Michi Trota of “Uncanny Magazine,” who was kind enough to record this for those of you who couldn’t be there. Thanks, Michi!).

This was one the scariest things I’ve done and I was so close to chickening out a couple times. But then I thought about how many ace artists there are out there, how many were in a situation to the one I was in just a few short years ago.

I have often written about my years in the closet, the number of toxic friendships I experienced, how I was made to believe I could never be an author because of my asexuality. This presentation was all about asexual artists and getting them the recognition they deserve, about showing that we do exist and we deserve to have control of our own narratives. A small part of it was also about myself, being the proud aro-ace feminist I have become. It was my way of saying “I love who I am, I’m proud of who I am, and I’m never going to let anyone take that from me ever again.”

Because asexuality is nothing to be ashamed of. Being asexual doesn’t mean you lack something, it’s just part of who you are. If anyone tells you differently tell them to fuck right off.

As I say in the description for this blog: “Asexuals deserve to be seen and heard.” And that is something I will always, always fight for 🙂

More Interviewees Needed!

Hi everybody! 🙂

As you may have noticed, I’m once again low on interviews. This is a reminder that Asexual Artists is open to interviews year round. So please, please, please send me an email.

Also, I’d like to see a greater amount of diversity both in artist interviews and artistic fields. This site is for every single asexual-identifying artist.

Art is including but not limited to:

  • Writing (all genres and forms)
  • Visual (again, all genres and forms)
  • Performance and Theater
  • Dancing (all forms: ballet, ballroom, burlesque, modern, tap, etc.)
  • Culinary
  • Fanart

If you’re not sure about your particular field, I encourage you to browse the site and read through the F.A.Q. section. If you’re still unsure, don’t be afraid to send an ask or even email me.

If you are interested in being interviewed, send me an email: laurenjankowski27@gmail.com

Also, with C2E2 just around the corner (eek, I’m so nervous!), I’m currently juggling a ton of work. So it might take me a day or two to respond and/or schedule your interview. But have no fear, it will be done 🙂

Thank you, everybody!

A Couple Signal Boosts

Hello all!

I have a couple super exciting updates. I’ll start with the most exciting one.


 

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C2E2 Panel!

I know I mentioned this earlier. I’m presenting a panel entitled “Where are the Asexual Artists” at C2E2, which is a massive Chicago convention. I’m incredibly excited but also quite nervous. The panel schedule just went live and you can find all the information about the panel at this link: http://www.c2e2.com/en/Sessions/18474/Where-are-the-Asexual-Voices

It’s going to be on Friday, March 18th at 5:30 and I hope to see some followers there. However, if you can’t attend, a good friend of mine is going to record it and I’ll post it (most likely on YouTube).


 

giveaway

“Embraceable” in Paperback

The book I have an essay in, Embraceable, is now available in paperback. So if you’ve ever wondered how I became the badass aro-ace feminist that I am today, you’ll want to check that out.

To celebrate the release, August McLaughlin is having a week-long release party and giving away some pretty sweet prizes. You can get more information on her own blog: http://www.augustmclaughlin.com/blog-2/


 

I’m still hard at work on my fifth novel and could still really use more sales. My job is as an author, that’s how I make a living. Conventions are a drain on my finances and I don’t have any real marketing aside from word of mouth. So please, buy books (you can find more info on my personal site and I have a Square store), leave nice reviews, and tell your friends.

Thank you, everybody 🙂